Hey you. My friends. Just a thought. Never Stoke a male ego, simply because He's a man.
Never make special allowances for masculinity.
Though our cultural set up inevitably encourages women to give men the benefit of our artifices and soft skills, to treat them with kid gloves, and coyly offer them the red carpet treatment.
Please let's not do that. Men won't expect it.
If mothers don't bring them up that way.
That's the most powerful force for good or evil, determining how a man turns out to be.
The other gender, is probably most potent as the mother gender.
I tell my sons as often as possible, they're just as special as the girl next door.
No more no less.
When you make allowances, when you cater to male sense of privileges and feelings of entitlement...You never know the extent of harm done.
You never know what expectations you're building up in them. Inadvertently.
That...
Women are soft, malleable.
They're clay dolls, putty in our playful/philandering male paws?
Women just don't know their own minds.
So if they say "No", you just gotta lay down the law, dictate to them.
A woman's No is a "Maybe Baby."....If you can just convince me by brute force.
Failing that psychoanalyze them as neurotic hysterical hags or loose bag of nerves.
Failing that, jeet at them, or cast aspersions on their character.
So the most intelligent among us women will get treated as a birdbrain in the company of quite ordinary men unless she toes the line.
Invisible of course. But unfailingly passive, and deferential.
Accompanied preferably by a lot of breathy giddy giggles.
We women are emotional vessels after all.
Seeking fulfilment through masculine appreciation admiration and validation.
Lets not treat men badly.
Let's not treat them special either.
Men have a buddy system.
Women I don't really know about your much touted divine ya ya sisterhood.
Seems to me that a solely emotional approach to loyalty and solidarity, to principled behaviour is bound to fail.
Feminine bonding is only half the answer.
Fallible since vulnerable to emotional click baiting.
Susceptibility is always sensed and taken advantage of.
Will you fail to stand by her, the unloved lone woman wronged? Because she didn't bond with the rest of the sisterhood?
Let's just be rational, matter of fact and pragmatic in our interpersonal transactions.
How we treat other human beings, or react to them, should be based on mutual respect, tolerance and compassion.
Which should ideally have nothing to do with gender.
I want to say this. Kids are innately wise. They befriend brains or beauty or brawn but never over a kind and good heart.
And kids know that brawn could be the pugnacious baby sister, and that the boy child can also be a beautiful being.
Brains are queer inventive things that can adapt and assimilate vast differences.
And find a way to joyfully coexist.
We are a species. Homo sapiens. Not a race. Not a gender. Not a colour.
Mostly not a religion.
Gosh.
Sleep deprived sleepyhead signing off. 🤓
